Tuesday, April 14, 2009

My Affection for Odd Numbers

I have an issue- a severe issue. It's not one I typically admit to having because it sounds a little OCD. But since I am trying to morph this issue due to recent circumstances, I will let you all in on my secret: I have an obsession with odd numbers. Not all odd numbers; just some of them. My odd numbers.

I honestly have no clue how this obsessive love relationship started with my special numbers; perhaps it is because they have always been good to me and worked for me instead of against me. My favorite number from as far back as I can remember has been the number 13. Of course, in middle school, that was one more reason for me to stand out because 13 was considered a freaky and unlucky number. Not for me. Not for me at all.

My husband considers this odd number affection and fascination very annoying. In fact, he has little patience when I ask him to set the alarm clock for "8:03 AM" instead of just 8:00 AM. He also bears little patience when I microwave something and set the microwave to heat for a minute and thirty three seconds. And to throw things off even more, I do not use all odd numbers in this way. Fives are forbidden. And even though zero is not an even or an odd number, I never set any timers or clocks with a number that ends in zero.

Other times my odd numbers have come in handy:

* When lying on the couch and wanting to rest for a few minutes, I refuse to get off the couch when the clock is on an even number such as 11:02, or a five such as 11:35 or a zero such as 11:20. Doing so would go against my love affair with odd numbers, a jinx in and of itself, some sort of denying of affection to these odd numbers that I have loved so deeply.

*When purchasing shoes. I wear a size seven so thankfully this shoe size fits into my passion. But should I have to purchase a size seven and a half (a number that ends in a two)- well, let's just say I never have.....

*When cutting up fruits and vegetables. I can't cut two of anything or four of anything.... it must be one of MY odd numbers.

*If I'm chewing gum and counting the number of times my jaw moves up and down, I have to stop counting on an odd number.

*If I have to randomly choose a number for a contest or something, I always choose one of my odd ones.

*When counting items or counting aloud, I prefer to count by odd numbers.

*When shutting my computer down, I ensure the clock is on an odd number.

This may all seem a little creepy and odd (no pun intended), but it really works for me. It gives me control. Ha! Number control..... until recently......

Fast forward to February 12 when I had my 4th attempt at IVF with a second doctor after more than four years of trying to get pregnant. Thirteen eggs were retrieved during my second fresh-cycle retrieval, but only ten were mature eggs. Ten fertilized normally.

February 17th at 1:30, two embryos were transferred, one Grade B and one Grade C. I laid on the table for 60 minutes after the transfer and then spent two days on bed rest following the transfer.

We then waited ten days for the blood pregnancy test. On 2/26, February 26th, I had an HcG level of 575. I waited four more days for another blood test that revealed an HcG of over 3000.

And on March 17, St. Patrick's Day, we saw two heartbeats and two fetal sacs. While that day was amazing and undreamed of, we were also told that one of the fetal sacs looked much smaller than the other. The doctor was not sure if it was because my ovaries were still swollen from the stimulation drugs or because the sac was actually smaller, but we were informed of Vanishing Twin Syndrome at that appointment. We were sent away with our questions answered but a definite uncertainty of the future.

A week later, on March 24th, we again saw two heartbeats and two fetal sacs. Although one sac was still smaller, both were growing. We were told if we could make it two more weeks with two heartbeats, it was likely we would keep two babies.

So, on Wednesday, April 8th at 9:30 AM, it was confirmed that we still had two heartbeats, one beating at 174 beats per minute and one beating at 176 beats per minute- viable twins!

I must say that my affinity for odd numbers has slowly washed away with the even-numbered frenzy and good luck. I'm trying hard to break my odd number obsession since the even numbers have been so kind to me as of late.

Odd numbers. Even numbers. It really doesn't matter how I got here.... the fact is that I am here. What is most difficult for me through all of this is the fact that I am pregnant and others that have been on this journey with me still are not. I cannot believe what guilt lies inside me, thinking of my blogging friends who have not yet conceived but will read this entry and cry and scream and get angry, all of which I have done at pregnancy announcements. So to those of you who are still on the path to motherhood, I salute you and stand by your decision to possibly not follow along on my journey anymore. I understand; I truly do, and I am sorry for any pain this post causes. All IF survivors are my heroes because I know what a long and tedious journey this is no matter if you have been trying one year or ten. I know your pain, and I empathize with your feelings right now. But no matter what, I am still here as a cheerleader and supporter since that is what so many of you have done for me. From the deepest beats of my heart, thank you for your support and faith and may your turn come, in one way or another, sooner rather than later.

"Faith can light a candle in the darkest night." (Anonymous)


Nichole said...

A beautiful post! Congratulations my friend, I will still be here, but I definitely appreciate the fact that you understand that I may not be able to read EVERY post.
I am thrilled for you beyond belief and wish you a very happy and healthy pregnancy!

Photogrl said...


I am sitting here ecstatic for you!

Yay, yay, yay!

What a wonderful surprise to log on and see today.

I Believe in Miracles said...


This totally made my day. Oh I am so so so so so sooooooooooooooooo excited for you.


wannabmomma said...

Very exciting news!! Woohoo! Congratulations!

Jen&Carter said...

I am so excited for you, beyond belief. Twins how exciting, I am so happy you and that we are expecting at the time. I am so happy in following this journey with you in pregnancy as we have both have been awaiting our turn for a while. I have missed you my friend. I hope and pray that all continues to go well for the both of us. So when are you due?

Anonymous said...

omg, omg, omg, omg!!! You made my day!! :) And I'm sure this news made your whole year! :) I have a serious affinity for even numbers (I was fah-reaking out about B being born on the 3rd or 5th, thankfully he obliged and came on the 4th. :)

Seriously so stoked for you sweetie!! Can't wait to watch your journey unfold. xo

Mr. Shelby said...

Holy Cow! What a great post to come back to!!! Congrats.

Thank you for an amazing entry.

-Mr. Shelby

s.e. said...

How absolutely amazing! Those two little ones have changed your fate and I am so glad the even numbers didn't jinx anything at all for you. You have been missed here and what a way to come back with such wonderful news.

I can't believe we ended up so close to the same place after all the perseverance. You definitely deserve this. Congratulations!

(FYI...I am not as obsessed but I did insist on getting married on an even number 6/22/02! Can we still be friends even though I am not an odd lover?)

Earl Gearl said...

Hi! I just clicked over here from I Believe in Miracles to congratulate you on your twins! What a precious gift! I hope your pregnancy goes wonderfully.

Just Me. said...

hehe. soooo happy for ya!



ps. nw go check your email! love ya, Superwoman!

Mel said...

Wow wow wow wow wow...and did I say wow?! I'm BEYOND happy for you, mama! What a wonderful way to return to the blogosphere.

Praying for you and those TWO precious little ones. *hugs* Yipeeeee!

Happy Not-So-Newlywed said...

Holy crap! I needed good news today! Congratulations, my friend! I will keep you in my prayers!


Kristin (kekis) said...

OH MY GOSH!!! I'm so excited for you! You totally threw me for a loop because I have a mild case of OCD, but it deals with evens. You know things that look and can be divided evenly in my parallel & perpendicular world.

TWINS - now that's a great even number! Be excited for yourselves. Your blessings are coming! The rest of us will join you eventually. Thanks for knowing we're still out here, and know we're on your side.

Just Meim said...

I'll admit, I got teary while reading. But I assure you, it is only because I am happy for and WITH you. You have been through so much, and I am so relieved that your IF journey is ending. From the very bottom of my heart: Congratulations!

I can imagine the grin on your face when you got the news, and the very thought of it makes me smile too. Thank you for sharing your joyful news.

courtney said...

Oh. My. Word.!
Congratulations! I was hoping you would pop back up in blog world, but I never expected such great news! What a great story, and what a neat story. I can't wait to hear how things progress from here. With all Sincereity: Big Congratulations.

Rachie Pachie said...

SO HAPPY to hear this! Congrats on two beautiful, growing babies! :)

JJ said...

I saw your name pop up on my reader, and I got all giddy--and now Im even MORE giddy! Thats FANTASTIC news! SO HAPPY for you, sweetie! YAY! Cant wait to hear more updates=)

Danielle said...

I'm so excited!!!!!!!!!!!! But you knew THAT already, didn't you?!

Can't wait! Really can't wait. These two babies are SO lucky. You are already an amazing mom and they aren't even here yet. The day I found out you were pregnant was the best day. I'm smiling like an idiot as I type this. Thought you'd appreciate that.

I'm really excited.

Really REALLY excited.



Wishing 4 One said...

Oh. my. God. Um welcome back to bloggin girl and how happy am i???? Um really super duper so so so so so incredibly happy for you! You know my deal but I am always so happy for those of us that chase away this hefer ms. if away. Anyway again a big huge fat congratultaions and a big huge fat hug and kiss from me to you! xoxoxox

Twins, OMG! Love it!

Evergreen said...

I don't know how I missed this post earlier, but CONGRATULATIONS!!! That is sooooooooo wonderful! I am thrilled for you and Babe and your 2 little 'ens. :-)