tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post8762713261284683499..comments2023-03-22T05:33:32.019-05:00Comments on It's Not the End of the World...: HODGE PODGE, MISH MASH, AND PINK ROSESHope2morrowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00196437847799474686noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-59524782263982344452008-08-09T10:20:00.000-05:002008-08-09T10:20:00.000-05:001. I think I choose to blog anon. b/c I feel like ...1. I think I choose to blog anon. b/c I feel like I'm not ready to reveal the "whole" me. I still keep thinking that this whole IF thing may not be real if I don't fully acknowledging it, and if I don't put a face to my blog, then maybe I don't have to fully accept the defeat and hurt of infertility. <BR/><BR/>2. I remain to comment on a person's page even if they don't respond to them just so they feel that even in their darkest feelings and emotions there is someone, though faceless and nameless is routing for them. <BR/><BR/>3. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! <BR/><BR/>I really do enjoy reading your blog. Although I wish we didn't have to have "this" in common, it offers great support to know that I'm not alone in the feelings that I have. Believe it or not, blogging, and reading others blogs has helped me stay sane in this cruel world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-53518184068153980332008-08-08T07:31:00.000-05:002008-08-08T07:31:00.000-05:00How ya doing, girl? Just checking in on ya since ...How ya doing, girl? Just checking in on ya since you haven't posted recently... feeling any better? Hope so.Rachie Pachiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14972099942877997058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-83349647126403485072008-08-05T20:58:00.000-05:002008-08-05T20:58:00.000-05:001. I have pics and post with real names and family...1. I have pics and post with real names and family pics, so obviously nothing about me is anonymous. Never thought about safety or security concerns. I suppose if something happened, I would shut down my blog (or make it available to only invited guests).<BR/><BR/>2. Depends. If they were people I've known for a while, I still comment from time to time on their blogs. But, if it's someone I don't really know and I'm not getting any "love" on my site, I usually stop checking their blog.<BR/><BR/>Look forward to seeing your pics!Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11934296773153860236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-84337288837664236562008-08-05T12:59:00.000-05:002008-08-05T12:59:00.000-05:00Hello!Thanks for stopping by! 1) I am anonymous be...Hello!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping by! <BR/><BR/>1) I am anonymous because I wanted to say whatever was on my mind, no holds barred, without fear of having anything misinterpreted by people in my life. Let's just face it: those who don't live IF don't fully understand it, and this is what I face in real life. In my non-anonymous blog, I find myself editing to the point where I wasn't really saying anything at all. I think I'm more private than I realize, but I still long to connect. I guess, in the end, it's just safer for me.<BR/><BR/>3) I'm trying this, too. It's about time for me!<BR/><BR/>4) Oh my. I must find me some Wonder Woman underwear stat!<BR/><BR/>Love your blog!Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06085283320884411888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-58481442510155003512008-08-05T11:19:00.000-05:002008-08-05T11:19:00.000-05:00Thanks for visiting my blog. The Anji CD I was re...Thanks for visiting my blog. The Anji CD I was referring to on Riding the RollerCoaster is from www.anjionline.com or http://www.anjionline.com/index.php<BR/><BR/>I have used the IVF CD and The Fertile Soul CD and have loved them both.<BR/><BR/>I will comment on your topics later, I am running out the door, and wanted to answer your Q, since it's been a few days.<BR/><BR/>:-)Evergreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02258314583046975642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-81093748033888681282008-08-01T15:23:00.000-05:002008-08-01T15:23:00.000-05:00Here are my responses to your #1 and #2 questions:...Here are my responses to your #1 and #2 questions:<BR/>1) I needed to be an anonymous blogger in order to feel safe talking about my true thoughts. After I became more comfortable, I told a few people that I know IRL about the blog. I am not yet willing to post a real picture. I am not concerned with security- just anonymity.<BR/><BR/>2) I comment when I have something useful to say. I read a lot more blogs than I comment on. I don't expect anyone to "return" the comment.<BR/><BR/>Glad you're feeling better!Trinkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928582349689352633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-33078630772185773182008-07-31T12:36:00.000-05:002008-07-31T12:36:00.000-05:00Welcome to the light! I blogged anomynously but I...Welcome to the light! I blogged anomynously but I am sure someone could figure it out if they wanted. I have issues with security online and all that.The Rebound Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05898239458640298633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-66038192612390276082008-07-31T10:07:00.000-05:002008-07-31T10:07:00.000-05:00Aww, just lost the comment I posted... :(Anywho ju...Aww, just lost the comment I posted... :(<BR/><BR/>Anywho just mentioned that my personal blog for family/friends is not as anonymous, although I don't post full names or locations. The people that check generally know how I am. They can link back to my IF blog (which has been neglected lately) if they want. <BR/><BR/>Commenting is less structured for me. Sometimes I comment just to make sure the writer knows I'm reading/checking in/thinking about them, sometimes I don't comment. I usually comment on my regularly checked blogs since I feel more of a "relationship" with them & I always try to respond to people that take time to comment on my blog. Lots of my family members don't leave comments on my blog, but I still comment on their's. I guess it just depends on the blog & how I'm feeling! :)<BR/><BR/>Really wishing you get a bit of hope to brighten your day right now. Thanks for all the encouraging comments!Rachie Pachiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14972099942877997058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-31038903800239633782008-07-30T16:48:00.000-05:002008-07-30T16:48:00.000-05:001) I chose to be open about my real name and post ...1) I chose to be open about my real name and post pictures mostly because I gave friends and family access to my blog. Plus, I never divulge anything to familiar so I feel pretty safe. But if/when I get pregnant I may go private with my blog. <BR/><BR/>2) I usually stop commenting on a persons blog that never comments back. I believe it's a give and take.<BR/><BR/>3) I'm so glad you're doing so well. It just goes to show you the power of prayer and self determination. Whenever I'm down, I do a lot of home improvements. <BR/><BR/>Love the quote, so perfect.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17786525217385383129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-21063098824737246002008-07-29T18:28:00.000-05:002008-07-29T18:28:00.000-05:001. I’m naïve and it drives my husband batty; he wo...1. I’m naïve and it drives my husband batty; he would never post pictures of us or write under his real name. He also believes in randomized computer generated passwords. I don’t doubt that he has a point, but I choose to ignore it. <BR/><BR/>2. If I like someone’s blog I’ll comment away. I don’t expect them to comment on mine, but if they choose to, I’m quite pleased!<BR/><BR/>3. I feel the same way…it’s time to stay positive. Thank you for that reminder, and I’m glad to hear that you’re back to climbing. When you get tired, just ask, and we can pull you up for a while so you don’t have to stop.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08339920449924488366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-68888459258679397572008-07-29T17:27:00.000-05:002008-07-29T17:27:00.000-05:00Thanks for your comment! One of the best things a...Thanks for your comment! One of the best things anyone ever said to me during my 5 years of IF was, "don't spend so much time looking for a child that you lose yourself." I think you're on the right track reminding yourself that "its not the end of the world..." Best to you.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03233571887300234228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-13619631400338078812008-07-29T14:49:00.000-05:002008-07-29T14:49:00.000-05:00I write somewhat anonymously. Jane is not my real...I write somewhat anonymously. Jane is not my real name, though Duchess and Jane both have a long story that is intertwined with my real life - it's not something that I just made up one day. I post photos of my family, myself, my house, and I write with a lot of detail that makes me less than anonymous. The true reason that I don't write under my real name is simple - Google. I don't want to be sitting down for a job interview one day and have the person say "So, we found your blog . . . " Hence, Jane.<BR/><BR/>As for commenting - when somebody leaves me a comment, I mark their blog in my feed reader and I follow for a few weeks. I don't comment just to comment back. I will read and see what catches my attention. If a few weeks pass and nothing catches my attention, I delete the feed. If I've visited the site a few times and left comments, I add the feed to my permanent collection and it shows up on my blogroll.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-76534285793193662562008-07-29T07:22:00.000-05:002008-07-29T07:22:00.000-05:00thanks so much for your kind words for Florenzo......thanks so much for your kind words for Florenzo...he does love us I think as much as we love him. I will update later...thanks so much again, means alot! xoxoxoxoxoWishing 4 Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13569405415176468436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-20321016080294673572008-07-28T22:17:00.000-05:002008-07-28T22:17:00.000-05:001. I blog anonymously because my blog is like my s...1. I blog anonymously because my blog is like my secret diary. I think that one day I will give the link to my nearest & dearest so that they understand but for now... I am anonymous for privacy & parania sake<BR/>2. I comment on blogs I like regardless of the response I get ... though I'll confess that when someone isn't responsive, I lose interest eventually or become more of a reader than a commenter. On my blogroll I have 3 categories (just like in real life) people who give me more than I give them, those who give me less & the few that we seem to have a mutual give-n-take relationship<BR/>3. I'm really glad to hear you're pulling through. You were high on my prayer list for a while. God is indeed faithful & I am proud of how you're handling yourself in Him.Yettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02618314696610199254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-34225065783141147292008-07-28T21:14:00.000-05:002008-07-28T21:14:00.000-05:00Hey hun, I am glad that you are feeling and going ...Hey hun, I am glad that you are feeling and going better. I love your little inspirational quotes at the end of each post, it makes my day and makes me think. <BR/><BR/>1. I wouldn't be to worried about people tracking back to you from pics or email.I think that you are ok.<BR/><BR/>2. I don't always comment, cause I don't know what to say. I have my regulars that I check on and can't wait to see what is going on in their lives.<BR/><BR/>I just want to say thank you for the encouraging comments that you left on my blog as we are going through a rough time in our losses.<BR/>hugs.Jen&Carterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11400087009612557359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-60006869337561868182008-07-28T16:08:00.000-05:002008-07-28T16:08:00.000-05:00Beautiful quote...what a perfect choice. I don’t t...Beautiful quote...what a perfect choice. I don’t think I’ve had a chance to thank you for taking time to comment on my blog...so a big, belated thank you for your words of encouragement.<BR/><BR/>2.)I try to comment on as many blogs as I possibly can, and I definitely like to give feedback when someone takes time to leave me a comment or question. However, my blogroll seems to be growing on a daily basis (so many talented writers!) and I really value my employment, so I ofen have to tear myself away to do some real work during the day when I'd much rather spend the time commenting! <BR/><BR/>4.)I also LOUDLY second the Pink Rose Award for I Believe In Miracles. She’s such a faithful blog buddy and always knows just what to say. She’s amazing.<BR/><BR/>So glad you’re feeling better…sending you lots of *hugs*Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06833561106262245914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-17784191320654633562008-07-28T14:41:00.000-05:002008-07-28T14:41:00.000-05:00hey girl, wow what can i say...thanks! i want to g...hey girl, wow what can i say...thanks! i want to give my thoughts on your questions and will but just got home and to say hey and thanks a million for the pinky. Not sure I deserve though do i? Anyway you are such a sweetie, i love that you're feeling better and will be back soon to comment again. xoxoxoxoxo much love.....Wishing 4 Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13569405415176468436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-47399027790866532722008-07-28T14:31:00.000-05:002008-07-28T14:31:00.000-05:00I'm so glad you are feeling better. You seemed so...I'm so glad you are feeling better. You seemed so sad in your last post. We can't control these crappy circumstances, but we can change the way we think/respond to them, and it sounds like you are on a better track now.<BR/><BR/> 1 - I don't think that pics are going to do any damage online, privacy-wise, so I wouldn't worry about that. Alot of people keep their blog a secret because IVF is a secret, and/or they are venting about friends and family online. <BR/>2 - I read blogs that I am interested in reading, and comment when I am so moved. If someone stops commenting on my blog, and I am not much drawn to theirs to keep up the reading, then yes, I would just stop. I would give them some time, I guess alot of us in the IF world prob have things that come up (procedures/depressions/etc) that would prevent us from being an active online participant. <BR/><BR/>Congrats on your pink rose!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-46647592526536026482008-07-28T13:30:00.000-05:002008-07-28T13:30:00.000-05:001--I have some pics (if you look for them) but I d...1--I have some pics (if you look for them) but I don't use our real names. I don't really have a solid reason or anything I can back up with fact. I just have concerns and try to use good judgment. <BR/><BR/>2--Yes, I eventually stop, but usually continue reading.<BR/><BR/>3--Yay for the light :)dmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04736251577259346219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-77871481997897729222008-07-28T11:12:00.000-05:002008-07-28T11:12:00.000-05:001) I am semi-anonymous only for the sake of my hus...1) I am semi-anonymous only for the sake of my husband. I hate for people to stumble across my blog and realize it's his wife. I don't mind people who know me knowing it's me, but some of my private inner thoughts about him and our marriage might be embarassing to him, you know?? Also, there were a lot of people that I didn't want to know about our situation, so I felt going kinda secretive was the best way.<BR/><BR/>2) I don't worry much about people who comment or don't with me, if I read a post I want to comment on I just do, even if I've never read the blog before. I always have my faithfuls, though. Those that I email with outside of comments, etc, and those people are my bread and butter.<BR/><BR/>3) Distractions are the best way to get out of the fertility rut-life is bigger than just babies, as hard as it is to accept. I hope that you can continue to see the light and know that I am praying for you. God has a plan and he will not fail you. I promise.<BR/><BR/>*hugs*Mazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16914742489846963185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-62976440891038386022008-07-28T09:19:00.000-05:002008-07-28T09:19:00.000-05:001) Alison is a common enough name that I wasn't wo...1) Alison is a common enough name that I wasn't worried about being traced. But I call my husband j on the blog because if someone searched for "Alison and [j's real name]" you could find us with a bit of effort. I also have my blog email that is separate from my real, personal email - my blog email doesn't have my last name on it. But sometimes I'll email people from my regular account. It just depends how comfortable I feel with that person. It's probably possible for people to figure out who we are, but the chance that someone would want to is so small, that I'm not worried. <BR/><BR/>2)It depends how much I like their blog. When I started blogging, I was out reading new blogs every day and commenting like crazy. Some people returned comments, some didn't. It's more about if I feel a connection with their blog. Some people I think feel a connection with me more than I do with them, but I usually keep reading theirs, even if I comment less.<BR/><BR/>I'm so glad you're feeling better and coming out of the darkness. Hang in there, this too shall pass. *hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-73681480800715949962008-07-28T04:01:00.000-05:002008-07-28T04:01:00.000-05:00I'm back again!LOL to potty mouth and ADD!You know...I'm back again!<BR/><BR/>LOL to potty mouth and ADD!<BR/><BR/>You know me so well!!!Just Me.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12940399833566474215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-33703461840734742252008-07-28T03:19:00.000-05:002008-07-28T03:19:00.000-05:00Thank you for visiting me! Let me see if I can ans...Thank you for visiting me! <BR/>Let me see if I can answer your questions. <BR/><BR/>1. I'm not sure, I was once annon, and hid my blog from the world because I was ashamed. Ashamed of lots of things, my feelings, my infertility. <BR/><BR/>2. I'm not sure, I am sure I am guilty of that because I'm hopeless at leaving comments and replying to comments. <BR/><BR/>3. I aspire to be like that. To be positive to not think that it is all crap. I hope that only good things come out of your positivity. <BR/><BR/>4. Just Me, is a Gem isn't she. She's helped me out on my darkest of days by giving me a laugh. <BR/><BR/>That quote, sums up my life. It's a goodun! <BR/><BR/>And because I want to remember you, I'm adding you to my blog list.Mrs Woggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05597471152428982909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-54231886259406449982008-07-27T22:15:00.000-05:002008-07-27T22:15:00.000-05:00First, I am so glad you are feeling better. (:1) ...First, I am so glad you are feeling better. (:<BR/><BR/>1) I mostly go by Lost in Space, but so many of my online friends from FF already knew my first name and I use it regularly on my blog without hesitation. I don't worry about being tracked too much and talk about work stuff as well as people I know IRL. I chose the option for my blog to not be searchable in search engines and hope this is enough. I also have a statcounter to check that IP addresses from my work or anyone in my home state (yes, the whole state) have stumbled upon my blog. I would probably switch it to "private" if either happened. I am more worried about having our IF status found out than I am about someone tracking to our house. I just don't think of myself as interesting enough for anyone to go through the trouble. LOL. I will put pics of me and the furbabies up, but not of my DH as he isn't comfortable with it.<BR/><BR/>2. It honestly depends on the person. If I know they are in an especially rough patch I will hang on for awhile to give all the support I can. At some point though, my feelings get hurt so I have to tailor back. It also depends if I come across their comments on other's blogs, but they still don't comment on mine. Then I just stop altogether because I figure they would probably rather have me go away. <BR/><BR/>3. I am thrilled to hear you talking so positively. It is so hard to stay optimistic all the time, but you are taking great strides to help yourself get out of a dark place. I will continue to pray for you and you keep on swimming toward that light, my friend. You will get there.Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7343511246533695686.post-43896157602084766902008-07-27T21:07:00.000-05:002008-07-27T21:07:00.000-05:001 - I am semi-anonymous. I don't post my husband'...1 - I am semi-anonymous. I don't post my husband's real name or anyone else in my life - but Heather is my real name. If someone in my real life wanted to find me, I think they could.<BR/><BR/>I use a yahoo email address. I'm not too computer smart, so maybe it can be traced. I use a different email address for everything not blog related. For photos, I change the names of the file. So that it can't be googled. I don't know if that even matters or not but it makes me feel better to do it - because I send a lot of the same photos to family members or put them on my myspace page.<BR/><BR/>2- depends on the blog. If they have tons of people leaving comments and I feel like my comment is lost, I quit commenting. Some blogs I quit reading all together because I wanted a more personal experience. Other times I still leave comments because my name is generic and they may think I am someone else...I try to give the benefit of the doubt.BigP's Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07124157582246972372noreply@blogger.com